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I’ve spoken to a couple of people who think that marriage will somehow magically make them connected to their partner, instead of already being connected and then getting married as a social display of their love and connection.

What’s the deal with these people? Some say it’s because "the vows", and I have no idea what that means in this context.

They don’t know that living together leads to more divorces than for those who don’t live together prior to marriage.

Should We Live Together?
What Young Adults Need to Know about Cohabitation before Marriage
David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead
Rutgers University Study Cohabiting couples breakup three times more than married couples. Cohabiting couples that later marry have a 46% higher rate of divorce than those who did not cohabit prior to marriage.

http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications/SWLT2%20TEXT.htm

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we went out like i guess a year ago around the winter broke up got back together in the summer he cheated one me. or wat he says "cheated on the other girl with me" and on years he txted me drunk telling me he loved me and wants to get back with me.and he keeps on asking if we can hook up as in kissing and i keep telling him no but he keeps insisting….why is he doin this?

He is doing it because he thinks you’ll give in and he can get away with having action on the side too. If it didn’t work the first time, why would it now. He doesn’t sound like a very nice boy. Cheating and such. Stick to your guns, if you’ve said no, it means no.

over and out =)

So my boyfriend and I broke up on New Year’s Eve. I had thought I was ready for us to break up and I was even planning on breaking up with him when I realized I could never do it, but then he broke up with me. He already has a new girlfriend, who used to be one of my friends… She helped him "get over" me before we were even broken up. Thing is she’s a slut and always cheats on her boyfriends. I don’t want to see him get hurt and I’m still in love with him and even though I want to cry every time I see him I’m making the effort to be friends with him. We walked home together today and it was a little awkward but I still want him back. He’s going to college next year, but just a Junior College not very far away. And i think a 9 month relationship is a lot to just throw away. I know I wasn’t the best girlfriend and I have learned my lesson not to play games, but I still love him and I want him back. HELP!
We were on a break when the girl helped him get over me. They even kissed a couple of times and that was when he "knew he couldn’t be with me." But he told me he still loves me… just isn’t in love with me? He says I hung out with my friends too much and I became a different person when I was with them… which I can’t really argue with. All I know is that I’m miserable and if I try to get him back I’ll only look like a fool since he already has another girlfriend. I just don’t know what to do.

I’m sorry, but his feelings for you have changed and he’s on to new things. If this new girl is as bad as you say, he probably will get hurt and there’s nothing you can do about that. If you tell him that his new girl is a slut, he’ll just think you are being a bitter ex-girlfriend.

He still cares about you, but he doesn’t want to be with you. You’ll have to accept this and move on.

My husband is getting back from deployment. He was in the dessert for a year. I want to blow his mind. Any good ideas?

the best would be .you being back in shape like hot and sexy…men like there wives sexy and hot..second is to do something in your house that would make him feel home….cleaning up, putting food inside the refrigerator and making the house comfy to stay in, third would be cooking his favorite food…..and forth would be showing him a bank book with money on it.meaning you saved his hard earned money…..he will love you more than you know and be blown out of his mind to realized that he married a perfect woman…like you..

Alright so , I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. Because my supposed friend didn’t like us dating. I realized it was a mistake, and said sorry. But he had already begun to move on, so I tried to do the same, and started dating another guy, making my ex very angry. We got into a huge fight because of it. Now, it’s been 3 weeks, almost a month, since he’s dating this other girl. He bought her a necklace (it’s almost Christmas) and he told my friend that this time , he "really wants to make something last with her" . It’s weird, because he still says i have a sexy ass and he actually kissed me a week ago and told me he’d want to be with me again, but after his current gf. My friend says they won’t last, cause he cheated on her. But he’s always with his new girlfriend now, and hugging, kissing, meeting her parents, all that jazz. Well now, I’m really regretting dumping him , and he did tell me after a girl breaks his heart, he moves on quickly. And I’ve noticed lol. But still, I really want him back, but he’s constantly with his new gf.. but he still compliments me, and he’s always trying to "kiss me" on msn ..
How do I get him back ?
Alright so new from today,
this morning he said he absoloutly loved my shirt and we hugged .
After school, I asked him why is he avoiding me (cause it seemed like he was) and he said
1. cause he’s tired of my drama, when i asked him what drama do i have, he said none now , but he doesn’t wanna deal with it again.
2. cause his new girlfriend is very possesive, protective and gets jealous easily, and he respects that and is not hanging out with his female friends much anymore
3. cause i think im always right. that one is true, but it’s cause i know im right..and i usually am xD

and proceeded to tell me he’ll never love me again, and that he wants to be with her in the future, and never with me again .
when i then told him thats what he told me when we were dating, and even last monday when he said "He’ll wait for me and still loves me" , he simply said he’s changed.

don’t u see he’s being a hypocrite?..n he’s also cheating on his current girlfriend.who’s to say he wouldn’t do the same when he’s with u..he obviously knows u still like him n stuff n if he did genuinely like u back he would’ve broken up with this girl n come back to u..