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How do I get him back? He’s a perfectionist.. help pls!!?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 10months.. he is 1 yr younger than me, he’s 21 and I’m 22.. we’re both Aries.. we are very attracted to each other but he is a perfectionist… he wants everything done perfectly as it should be and sometimes he gets on my nerves because I’m not perfect and I will never be.. I cant understand how he agrees that no one is perfect but then he still wants a perfect girl and a perfect relationship.. long story short.. he broke up with me 4 days ago.. last sunday we had an argument and he just left.. we had arguments before but this time I felt it was the big one.. I left two days without contacting him then I asked him to meet but he answered that we’re done.. then yesterday he was online and I tried to get an explanation, I thought it was because of the argument but he said that it is about everything.. there were times that I couldn’t control myself when I was angry with him.. I admit that sometimes I get really angry when he does something bad that I make him feel like ****.. I know I have to control myself.. and when one day he told me its over, I just realized how much he is important to me.. and we talked it over and I began to control myself.. I did a lot of effort and he noticed my improvement..
but now.. how could he say after all we’ve been together that our relationship is not perfect and therefore it’s over because of that?? he’s been through a lot in his childhood.. his parents are separated, he’s the oldest of four brothers.. his mother’s partner lives with them.. he doesnt talk to his father because his mother doesnt want him to, she threatened him that she will expel him from home :/ a few weeks ago we went for a weekend break together.. and he told me that he doesnt feel at home in his home.. he’s not close with his friends, he just goes out with them sometimes.. but he has never talked about this to anyone except me.. never talked to anyone that his parents are not together.. I’m the closest person he had..
I’m in love with him.. I cant believe the fact that it’s over in this way.. he said to me that he found a family with me and my family and that he feels at home with us.. why does he want to lose all this??
I dont know what to do.. please help! I feel that all this attitude of him is because of all that he’s been through.. he used to see his mum and dad fighting and arguing.. and that is why he doesnt want any arguments between us.. but its normal to argue and its normal to have a fight.. he agrees that is normal but he wants everything in a perfect manner.. that you just talk it out and not yelling and all that.. I know that that is the best way.. I never meant to hurt him.. whenever he had an argument he just stays quiet and then I will make him comfortable enough and talk it out and feel good together..
I didnt think I was going to end up writing all this!! I really am in love with him.. we spent a wonderful time together lately.. we know a lot about each other.. I dont know how to handle this.. but I know that he’s worse than me at the moment.. since I talk to my girlfriends and my mum, she’s my bestfriend.. but he has no one to talk to.. and that really makes me feel bad..
confused :/
for him its over.. I feel like a fool trying to contact him now.. he will either not respond or repeat that its over..
Don’t be. Now… Take a deep breath, it truly helps. You need to remind him that nobody is perfect. That is the true fact, take it or leave it. He should know that there isn’t going to be perfect people for him. Get him to know reality better that people will let people down in life as always. We make mistakes but we learn from them and when people ask about our life’s experiences, we can tell them what to do and what not because we have gone through them.
But if you love him, then it also means tolerance , patience and accepting him for who he is ( though you can try realizing him that being a perfectionist is somewhat vanity). You love him because you just do.
Maybe you’re right that his problems has made him this way. He needs support if that is true. He maybe worried and maybe a little paranoid as well that if things do not go right for him, it would end up like his parents.
So just be patient.
How do I get my ex-boyfriend back?
My boyfriend just broke up with me on Monday night, and today is Thursday. We were together for 3 years and 4 months. I’m 16 and he is 17. We live right down the street from each other so i see him all the time, and we have known each other since 2nd grade (we will be seniors in high school this year). He broke up with me by saying this, : "We need to take some time off from seeing each other. i have alot going on with me right now and I don’t want you to get dragged into it. i need time to myself to think about my life."
This breakup hurt me more than i can explain. he was my first kiss and i was his first kiss and everything. i want him back so bad so what should i do? please i need helpi love him so much and i cant let him go.
here are some things you can do to get him back.
1. Don’t Do What You’re Predisposed To
Usually, when people breakup, you start hearing different kinds of gist flying all over the place. It’s almost as if both parties are doing everything they can to defame each other. This is so common you’ll be amazed. This is not what you should do if you want to get him back. Usually, I have found that when one party doesn’t get involved in the ìflameî sessions, then there is no gas to cause an inferno. Unless he’s immature, he shouldn’t even be doing this in the first place. But sometimes, men can such big babies and whiners. But if he sees you’re not saying anything defamatory, he’ll start wondering why. Mission one accomplished: He’s thinking about you.
2. Get Very Busy
So busy, you don’t even have time to stand and chat with your friends. Trust me, they’ll understand that you’re going through a phase and will most likely let you be. There’s something rewarding and therapeutic about hard work. This will help you get your mind of wanting him so desperately and get you to the place where you can calmly think and act rationally of what you can do to get him back even when your heart does three flips every time you see him.
3. Understand That He Still Misses You
Love and attachment is such a strong feeling. Research has shown that many people will get back together even when they both know they’re not right for each other. Why is this? The body has been used the consistent barrage of endorphins feel good hormones- that your presence caused him. Now, when you break up, the body goes into a state of withdrawal. But when you see each other, your bodies react the way they have been “programmed” in the past.
4. Project a Happy Self Confident Image
Act like everything is alright with you. One of the reasons he got interested in you was because there was no “baggage” whatsoever. So, doing this reminds of him what you were like when you first met. If you get to talk, avoid discussing your “issues”. I am willing to bet that it’s one of the reasons he took off in the first place
Doing these few things will get him back and begging you to take him back if you do them right and properly.
I really hope this helps you out. If not I’m sorry, I tried.
Avery
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SAVE OUR PLANET-Glacier Loses Ice Chunk Equal to One-Eighth of Manhattan
SAVE OUR PLANET… Accelerated Greenland melt linked to warming oceans. The loss of a nearly 4.5-square-kilometer expanse of ice in a single day from Greenland’s Jakobshavn Isbrae glacier is a warning sign of increasing water temperatures, according to researchers at the US National Aeronautic and Space Administration (NASA). The detachment of the huge piece of ice caused the ocean to effectively move 1.6 kilometers further inland, a point more interior than what has ever been previously observed. The Jakobshavn Isbrae glacier, which has seen drastic ice losses since 2001, is believed to be the largest factor in northern hemispheric sea level rise. Thomas Wagner, cryospheric program scientist at NASA, noted that this recent event occurred just after an Arctic winter season in which no ice had formed in the surrounding waters. He commented, “While the exact relationship between these events is being determined, it lends credence to the theory that warming of the oceans is responsible for the ice loss observed throughout Greenland and Antarctica.” NASA scientists previously observed that west Greenland’s glaciers are melting 100 times faster at points beneath the ocean than on their above-ground surfaces, saying that the likely explanation for this discrepancy is warming ocean water.
Dr. Wagner and other National Aeronautic and Space Administration experts, we thank you for these observations that further reveal the predicament of our fragile biosphere. May we all act now in effective ways to cool and re-stabilize our shared planetary home.
Conveying her ever-present concern for all beings, Supreme Master Ching Hai spoke during an international seminar in December 2007 about addressing the dire situation caused by such conditions as accelerated polar ice melt.
International Seminar
December 25, 2007
Supreme Master Ching Hai: The climate is warming quicker than they predict, that’s the problem. Because you see, when one thing is warm, it makes another thing warm. And then, because like this, if the ocean is warm, then it melts the ice. Because when the ice is there it reflects the heat, and so the ocean is less warm, but now the ocean is warm enough to melt the ice, and so there is nothing to reflect the heat, and therefore the ocean is warmer. So that’s why they could not calculate it well. And so it keeps warming faster than they think. So in that case if the governments or everyone don’t do anything, then that’s it. Do whatever you can to save the planet. Like, go out with the Alternative Living and tell people to eat vegetarian, tell people to plant trees, spare some with the electricity, water, whatever. But that is not much. The government has to do something. They have to stop it altogether.
If it were up to me, I’d forbid everybody to eat meat. Stop immediately.
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